The Bible instructs spouses to submit to one another, with wives being taught to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord, and husbands to love their wives as Christ loves His church (Ephesians 5:21-33, 1 Peter 3:1-7). Submission is not about being a spouse’s slave; it is about following their lead and choosing to love them even when we don’t feel like it or they don’t deserve it. This means trusting God to lead the husband, and the wife follows. This means continually loving the wife even if she rebels. The submission to the command to love our neighbor as ourselves applies in marriage in a deep, intimate way. If the husband, who is responsible for the family, is failing in his role, God can lead the wife to take action. If she has to choose between God and her husband, God would ultimately come first.